Thursday, September 22, 2011

All this Wanting

There was this time in the life of NinnyBeth where I did not think I would ever register for presents for my wedding. I said to myself, "Self, you have all that you need and if someone want to gift you a thing upon your nuptials, they will know you well enough to get you something cool."

This week, I said another thing to my self. I said, "Self, actually, you don't have a shower curtain for your hypothetical new apartment. And then there is that part where you might also want to consider the fact that you just might need to iron a shirt for your hypothetical new husband and though you have ignored wrinkles for the past 34 years, it is possible that owning an iron and an ironing board might not be a bad idea."

And so my self and I have registered at a few different stores just in case a friend who might want to buy us something cool wants to also buy us something useful since we are poor. Here's what I wish though. I wish I could register generically like, just have a list on a website somewhere that says just the idea of a things like:


toilet brush

grill type thing in fashion of George Foreman for syphoning fat from delicious red meat patties in round shape.

kitchenaid mixer (any color, go crazy)

laundry basket


picture for over bed because we don't have an actual bedframe and that will make it look more like a grownup bed.*


shower curtain*

*note: we like blues and greens and things that look old.

Would that be a cool kind of registry? You know, something a little more generic that will allow us to allow for some freedom. I don't usually plan my decorating schemes as carefully as this whole registry thing would have me do. My decor is usually a really weird mix of found items, DI castoffs, hand me downs, and leftover college posters. I'm uncomfortable with the level of decisiveness that this whole thing requires. I also philosophically feel challenged by the idea of NB and JR leaping down the aisles of target gunning out the things that we think you should buy us. Gross. Additionally, I don't want ANYONE to think that they have to bring a present in order to eat our chocolate cake and play the pianica at the concert/reception. But then there is the reality. People give gifts and registries are helpful. blah blah blah....

Maybe my registry idea is a little bit like the DRUM CIRCLE DEBAUCLE OF LATE SUMMER 2011 (in which NB tried desperately to get everyone to agree that having a drum circle of jembe drums at the reception would be the coolest thing EVER and to which no one would agree. EVER.) but I think it would be more fun that way. I like my friends. I'm mostly friends with them because they have style and humor and sass and they like me. I would like to trust them with this one. But I guess I will have to settle for spending a day gunning crap at Kohl's and Target that we need and pray that there are some surprises in the mix.

I wonder what emily post would say about asking your guests who want to give you a present to give you 10 bucks and list of their favorite yardsale locations. That sounds like the perfect gift to me!


Tamara Johnson said...

I have a friend who actually had a "list" kind of like that. It did not go over well.

Target doesn't have the most awesome return policy, so I always recommend against it.
But here's the thing, if you don't want to do a registry, you don't have to. People will get you a gift if they want to get you something whether you register or not. The people you think will get you something won't get you anything at all. And those you never expected to care about your wedding will give you the most beautiful pans and such. Friends who didn't want to spend money were gracious with their words or time.

I felt the same way about making the list. Seeing as I'd lived on my own for a hundred years, I had everything.
But I also happen to be married to an amazing cook who loves everything at Williams Sonoma. So we registered (WS, BB&B, and Macy's - all great return policies). We took some stuff back. Still have some money left over. People who didn't want to buy off the registry didn't. It's all good and I got over it as soon as I realized people just wanted to celebrate in their own way.
Which was what was most important.

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Regirlfriend said...

At my wedding, you gave me something cool. My classy wood bowl and my classy salt & pepper shaker are from you. I don't have the husband anymore, but I still have your gifts and use them on the daily.

I can't wait to get you something cool for yours, although I have a feeling your husband will outlast it.

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